It?s time to wrap up our online dating experiment! Mya gives us some more insight into the life she?s had these past 30 days. If you aren?t familiar with Mya?s story can read all about how she wanted to start this online dating experiment while still in a relationship, and how it blew up in her face!
Part 1:?In case you missed Part 1?
Part 2:In case you missed Part 2?
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Mya hasn?t had much success online dating. But she has learned a lot. She said, ?I guess to just to go into with an open mind but not thinking I?ll find my soul mate.?
Her online dating account is still open and she?s trying to make connections. But that wasn?t the best part of Mya?s story. Everyone is waiting to see what happened with her boo!
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How is the situation with the ex going?
It?s crazy.
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We are still talking. We went six days without communicating and me being hard core cutting him off. He called and said he realized no one is going to love him the way I did. So I fell for it and said we can work on it.
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Trust has to be rebuilt and all that. So we are moving slow. I?m not putting all my eggs in one basket but I think we are in the process of putting things together again. Maybe.
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What happened to the other girl?
The other chick, I just made up a name for her so let?s call her Lauren. He told Lauren about our relationship when they first met and were just sleeping together.
(So Lauren isn?t innocent!)
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He started catching feelings for her because they started going to dinner and stuff outside the bedroom. So of course he started caring about her.
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My ex-boo told Lauren that she gets a one month trial period. Basically, he told her that he wanted to see what dating her for real was like for a month and then he would decide if he wanted Lauren or wanted me.
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And she agreed. Apparently her trial period was over this month and he broke things off with her. This all could be some bullshit.
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He?s really brazen and cocky and a smooth talker. So he probably spun it to make it sound good.
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(I had to pause the interview to cuss. What type of foolishness?)
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So Lauren, the other woman, knew about you?
Yea. So maybe she?s getting what she deserves. I still can?t believe that she would be cool with a ?one month trial? period.
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Do you believe him?
I don?t know what to believe at this point. It sounds really far fetched but stranger things have happened.
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How could you ever trust him again?
That?s the thing. It?s going to take time because there are so many bad memories from 2012. I won?t forget but maybe we can start building new memories. To counteract that.
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We are no where near getting back together but I?m hopeful.
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Do you want him back or somebody new?
I want him back. Today anyway.
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Why?
I don?t know. My friend said I?m addicted to him and that?s not good. Even though it hurts me I still love it.
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What happened to him being addicted to sex? How is that going to stop?
I?m not sure. Like I told him the physical part doesn?t bother me. But it?s that his heart is with somebody else. Long as he wraps it up and gets tested that?s fine. But he?s out here FALLING for this girl.
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But when we are in the same town he needs to just be sleeping with me. If I?m not there and he?s addicted then I can understand more.
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What does he want?
He wants to be a good guy and do the right thing. He is talking about going to church more and all that stuff. He said he wants to be a in a relationship with me and start a family. I?ve heard all this before so I?m skeptical at this point.
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To me it?ll be a time thing to see what happens over time.
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So you are considering moving?
Yes again. We are right back where we started. Well before I didn?t want to move but I was willing to if the online dating stuff didn?t work out. But since the online dating stuff didn?t work out maybe I need to be with him. And I have to go all in.
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I still don?t like the idea of moving but I will. He makes a lot more money up there and I wouldn?t want to take him from that (for him to take a pay cut).
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So what if you move and he?s cheating?
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Then I got to kill him and end up on Snapped. I made him aware of that. If I go it?ll be a while before I go.
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Do you think this is what you deserve?
Honestly I feel like it is. Because I?ve done my dirt, he?s done dirt, and maybe we can get it together and both act right.
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Now reflecting on how this situation worked out, would you do anything differently?
I think I did everything right. If anything, I should have moved to be with him at first instead of moving back to my hometown. Although I didn?t think we were ready as individuals at that time. But it would have been better for the relationship.
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Relationships are hard. You want to do what?s best for you, but then there?s an ?us? to consider.
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What do you say to people who think this situation is ridiculous?
Yes I am well aware of the ridiculousness. People aren?t there for the good times and everything is the way it?s supposed to be. Like the rest of the world stops turning.
Most people only hear about the mess. But it?s those good times that make me look past the mess. And want to make it work.
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I?m not even sure I have words for Mya. I did wrap up our interview with a pep talk because although this seems like an extreme case, there are several ?Mya? women out there.
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Always remember that you have worth and value. Even when you mess up and aren?t perfect. Having messed up in the past does not resign you to a life of messed up situations. It is possible to cut your loses and begin again. It sounds like Mya thinks this is what she deserves and that she must endure the foolishness. That?s not true. Yes, they have both cheated on each other in the past, but clearly her ex-boo is not trying to live right.
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Pay attention to how people treat people because they will treat you the same way. He?s manipulative towards the other woman and chances are he is manipulating Mya as well.
Let?s just bow our heads for her and pray that she finds the strength to seek a happy, healthy, monogamous, fulfilling relationship. It?s best to leave the trash at the curb even if you got dirty taking it out.
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Thank you Mya for participating! If you want help with your online dating profile, e-mail Dee at deerene@laughcrycuss.com .
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